Being ME...

>> Tuesday, December 22, 2009

I've taken the path of least resistance - IGNORE. There are people around me - toothless, shallow, fake. They do not have an opinion of their own. Their opinions are based on the need to impress others. But I am not one of them. I, being myself, am attracting their hatred. The new lot mixed with a new one, throwing attitudes, scoffing and throwing tantrums. Ever since the new lot's come in, they have chosen to ignore me. AND THIS IS GREAT. What I planned to do, happened on it's own. Ever since they came in I've felt an immense disliking for 3 people and as the days went by it only grew from strength to strength n turned into hatred. No, hatred wasn't n isn't in my character. The immense hatred only comes once in a while when such characters surface. These occasions are a rarity.

All these negative characters around me I choose to ignore and have been successful too. If my ignoring them is not harming anyone, is not hindering anyone, and most importantly I'm happier ignoring them I think I should continue doing it. My need n my choice is to be happy. If that also means selfish, so be it.

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Arrogance

>> Wednesday, December 2, 2009

While some people flaunt attitude on their shoulders, others carry arrogance around and there is only a very thin line dividing the two. While attitude is real, arrogance is not.

Let me out down a few situations so that you can decide for yourself what it can be classified into.

Mr. A calls another Mr. S and asks him the status of a feature development. S says it's done. A asks him to explain his solution. A disagrees. Says things like "If u can't do it, just tell me. At least don't waste yours and another's time." A few hours later, A calls S and shows his solution, plus boasts about it as how he simplified it and blah blah. A's solution is exactly the same as what S did earlier.

Then in one of our meetings one of the freshers comes up with his situation - his code has been overwritten by somebody and wants to know the reason how it could happen and how to avoid it in future. So a senior member, Ms.SK, says one reason it could have been due to "resolve using mine/theirs". Mr. A started off to say that is not how to do it. One should analyze the code and not simply resolve by using mine/theirs. What he said is right and neither did Ms. SK say that. What was wrong was the tone and decibel level that A used. That is not the way to talk to anybody and especially not in office.

Then today A calls Ms. N and almost blasts her (high decibel levels and high levels of rudeness) taking his own meaning for some bug and when he himself reads it properly after Ms. N asks him to and realizes his mistake, he grudgingly says sorry.

I would categorize all these behaviors by A as Arrogance. If he does not mend his ways Ms. N is going to give him a piece of her mind. It's not that she doesn't know to fight that she keeps silent, it's because she doesn't want to.

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